Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.–Ephesians 5:31
I will not babysit my child. I refuse to babysit my future children. It is not my job to babysit my baby daughter.
I am her parent! I am her father. My responsibility to her may include being home with my daughter while my wife is out and about. This is not babysitting.
I babysit other parent’s children, but I parent my own. I do not babysit my own children.
What’s the Big Deal
The big deal is when a wife (this is not always the case) will say, “I’ll just have Justin (husband) babysit the kids.” Wait a second! This communicates one of two things.
First, that the husband is not normally taking responsibility as a parent. The Bible speaks to a husband and wife joining together as one. Not that the wife is the only one that watches and is responsible for the child(ren).
The husband should be just as much of a parent as the wife. He should not babysit, but parent.
Second (or), this communicates that the wife is the one in charge. “I’ll just have him babysit.” Meaning, I’ll set him in charge of the kids for the night. So, the wife is acting like she is in charge and belittling the man of his God-given responsibilities.
I Will Not Baby Sit My Children
Parenting is hard work. I have only been a parent for a few months, and I know parenting will only get harder.
It can be so easy for me to just sit back and let my wife do most of the parenting. My wife is a stay-at-home-mom. So, it can be more natural for me to not be as engaged as I should. However, I am called to lead her and my family. I am called to parent my children. There will be times when I just don’t feel like it, but this is not a choice I have to make; this is a responsibility that was given to me.
I will not babysit my child(ren) because I am their parent and will fight to be engaged in parenting through the hard time, the joyous times, and the exhausting times, etc.
Babysitting is temporary and short lived, parenting is so much more.
I am in this for the long haul and choose not to waste my joyful duty as a parent.